Thinking of Redefining Your Look? Avoid These Commonly Made Mistakes

One of the wonderful things about growing up is getting to define our sense of personal style as we mature. Whether it applies to our clothes, the way we wear our hair, our makeup or our footwear it’s a beautiful journey of self-discovery. Of course when we’re kids and teens we start out by wearing whatever our parents pick out for us, or try and ape the styles of our coolest friends. As we get a greater sense of who we are, however, we start to get a little more flamboyant. We feel more comfortable taking risks and expressing ourselves through our appearances. Whether we choose to embrace a modest style or not, we all get more comfortable with experimentation, finding out for ourselves what works and what doesn’t. 

However, while our tastes tend to change and evolve as we do (and as fashion dictates), there are times when we feel like a radical change. Sometimes we do this out of a need to redefine ourselves (such as the break up of a serious relationship, a change in job or career or entering a new social circle). Sometimes we do so out of a simple desire to mix things up a bit in terms of our personal aesthetic. Redefining your look can be incredibly liberating. In fact, while we are resistant to change in general, it can be good for us in a number of powerful ways. It’s no exaggeration to say that in some cases, changing your style can change your life. It can make you more comfortable in your own skin, help you to embrace your age or body shape, help you to shrug off old insecurities, and help you to feel a new kind of confidence.

However, whenever you invite any drastic change into your life there are potential caveats. Here are some commonly made mistakes that will keep you from doing anything that you may regret when redefining your look... 

Going too extreme

It’s completely understandable that you may want to make a significant change. But be wary of going too extreme in your look. Especially when it comes to things like your hair. While changing your hair can be fundamental in changing your appearance, there’s nothing worse than knowing in your heart fo hearts that you hate the look you see in the mirror. While any change may seem jarring at first, the last thing you want is a look that feels fundamentally wrong to you. It can take a very long time grow your new look out and try something that helps you to feel more like you. 

As hungry as you may be for change, you’re looking for a way to redefine yourself rather than try and make yourself into someone else. Talk to your stylist beforehand about ways in which you can still stay true to yourself while trying something new. 

Remember that there are lots of ways to change your appearance that can instantly be reversed such as changes in makeup looks, clip-in hair extensions or hair chalk. There’s no need to make permanent or long lasting changes while you’re still feeling vulnerable. 

Costly or high maintenance looks

When we’re deciding who we are in terms of our appearance, we tend to settle on looks that are flattering, yet easy to maintain. The temptation when choosing a new look is to put together something that makes a statement. And while that’s great, you should also think about how easy your new look is to fit into your lifestyle. Will you still be able to meet up with a friend at a moment’s notice? Or will you have to wear a hat or a hood unless you’ve spent the better part of an hour perfecting your hair? Will you still be able to be comfortable in your new look? Will you need to make an effort to adjust your look for different scenarios (e.g. school and work)? 

You should also be wary of any looks that require you to spend a fortune on a new wardrobe. Your new look should still allow you to lean on old favorites without looking dissonant. Furthermore, a whole new wardrobe isn’t great for the environment or your bank balance. Try to be more like Zero Waste Home author Bea Johnson who can get a staggering 50 outfits out of a 15 piece wardrobe. And, of course, remember that there’s no better way to make your clothes new and unique than getting your sewing machine out and getting creative!

Assuming that contacts are better than new glasses

If you need corrective lenses, your eyewear can be a huge part of changing your look. But don’t make the mistake of assuming that the only way to change your look is by getting contact lenses. Contact lenses are easy to damage and lose, and using them brings an increased risk of scratches, irritation and infection of the cornea. 

You may be better served by trying out new glasses from eyeglasses.com. The right frames can subtly enhance the shape of your face while drawing the eye to all the right places.

Leaning too heavily on makeup

Makeup can be awesome. It can enhance the gifts that nature gave you while also drawing focus away from the parts of your face that you’re less thrilled with. It’s also a fantastic outlet for self-expression. Being daring in the looks we create and wear can be extremely liberating and help us to look and feel different. 

But be wary of changes to your look that require you to wear heavier makeup. Over reliance in makeup over long periods of time can clog your pores and irritate your skin. Make sure you can still pull off your new look when you’re giving your skin the time to recover from the effects of wearing makeup. 

Bringing the wrong friends out shopping with you

Going shopping for new clothes with your friends can be enormous fun. Just make sure you bring the right friends with you. The friends who you know will be honest. Even if they have to be brutally honest. 

As tempting as it may be to bring the friend who’ll always tell you that you look gorgeous in everything, you’re actually better served by the friend who will be kind but honest and potentially save you from making a purchase that you later hate. 

Playing it too safe

Finally, while you can certainly go to bold in your new look, there’s also such a thing as playing it a little too safe, as well. You should aim to scare yourself just a little while remaining mostly excited for those around you to see your new look.


3 Must-Wear Items To Take On A Hot Holiday

Women have so many choices for holiday clothing. Bikinis, crop tops, skirts, beach dresses, tea dresses and even flared chinos. But what about men? You don’t have to wear jeans, shorts or just t-shirts. There are many more clothing options for men who want to look more bold, from the country, with style and confidence too. What else should you be packing for a hotter climate? You can and should be wary of the conditions you want to feel in when you’re out and about on a beach, in a crowded restaurant or perhaps in a long line waiting to get into a club. On top of this you always want to pack a few home comforts. Just because you’re on holiday doesn’t mean you have to enjoy everything in a foreign land far far away. If you’re off to have a holiday in a hot climate, take some of these things.

Dress light but sharp

Men who don’t want to break tradition and love classic fashion, are not without options for searing hot days. You don’t have to wander around the room wondering what to wear if you have packed one of these custom made mens suits. For 85 years, Canali has made some of the best suits for men coming out of Italy. Everything is completely handmade, making this brand one of the more discernible luxury suit brands for the modern man. However they make suits for the everyday man, they’re not just for the wealthy. Their sport jackets are something you will want to take with you when you’re in a stuffy high-humidity environment. Made out of some of the best wool and cotton you can buy, these jackets breathe with you, keeping a consistent airflow around your body.

Let your feet lounge 

When you’re come this far to a hot country for your holiday, the last thing you want to worry about your clothes. Don’t make a big song and dance about looking good, just slip something on. These wicker slipper cut loafers are exactly the kind of effortless style you want when you’re off down the riviera, the cobblestone streets and the shopping centers around town. Easy to put on, easy to take off. Yet they also allow your foot to flex, breathe and move around freely inside. As you can guess by looking at the material, they’re also lightweight. That’s exactly what you want on holiday, clothes that don’t remind you every second of their presence. The cooler, lighter and more flexible your footwear is, the calmer more relaxed you’ll feel.

Go retro

For every stylish outfit in the sunshine, a pair of sunglasses is the missing link. But since retro glasses are more popular than ever, how about going with some square frames and two-tone lenses? Blocky, yes, heavy, no. The summer retro sunglasses are quickly becoming a staple accessory for all classes of men roaming the Meditterranean and other hot climates.

If you’re in the midst of packing for a hot holiday, take caution to the wind and make sure you have these items with you. Keep your holiday carefree with lightweight but sharp stylish fashion.


4 Style Tips + Modern Holiday cards

This post is sponsored by Basic Invite, but all thoughts and opinions are my own. I only recommend companies and products that I have personally tried and loved.

I know, I know it’s barely July and I’m already talking about modern holiday cards. BUT it IS “Christmas in July” season! This is the perfect time to start thinking about Christmas, because it’ll get you excited for Christmas and these style tips can be applied year round! Along with each style tip, I’ll also be sharing why I love Basic Invite!


Photo by Tamara Bellis on Unsplash

Before I scare you off, neutrals are colors too! By colors, I don’t mean you have to walk around like a rainbow. (But if that’s your style, please go ahead!) And by “embrace,” I mean do what feels right for you. For example, I like to embrace pinks, whites, and more pastel florals in my wardrobe. By "embrace," I also mean not being afraid to try new colors outside of your comfort zone. Start by picking one item in a color outside your comfort zone and pair it with other items that are the colors of your choosing.

Basic Invite is one of the few websites that offers almost unlimited color options with instant previews online. There are over 180 different color options so you can personalize your cards down to the smallest detail. I'm very picky when it comes to pinks and I am usually disappointed when it comes to getting the exact pink color that I want on an invite. But with Basic Invite, I have various pretty pinks that I can happily choose from! This is definitely what sets Basic Invite apart from almost any other online stationery company.


I ALWAYS try my outfits before heading out. There have been numerous times when I planned an outfit in my head, but once I put it on, I was like “nope!” Thankfully, for the most part, I have time to change. Hopefully, you’ve had time to change, if this has happened to you, hehe. :)

Basic Invite is one of the few websites where you can get a printed sample of your actual invitation. This is amazing, because this way you can can see exactly how it will print & the paper quality before committing to it. 


Photo by Tamara Bellis on Unsplash

What truly pulls an outfit together? Accessories! Whether it’s a favorite purse or some fabulous shoes, there’s no denying that accessories matter! Liven up your tee & denim combo with a straw purse in summer or animal print booties in the fall. 

Your invitations are no exception. With Basic invite you can choose from over 40 different colors of envelopes, so you can make your invite pop and stand out before even being opened. Make sure your Christmas party invitation has a festive envelope to match.To make things easier for you, envelopes are peel and seal!


This gets said often, but the most important style tip is to just be yourself. Let your personality shine! You make the outfit, not the other way around. :)

Foil cards (flat or raised) are available in gold, silver, and... ROSE GOLD! (If you didn’t know, I’m obsessed with rose gold, it was even my birthday theme this year).

One last thing I’ll share about Basic Invite, is that they also offer an address capturing service that allows you to simply share a link on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any other social media site to request your friends and family’s addresses. How easy and convenient is that?! P.S., Basic Invite offers recipient address printing at NO COST on all card orders. I encourage you to browse around the site and look through their invitations, victorian Christmas cards, and even business cards.

Right now, Basic Invite is offering 15% off with coupon code: 15FF51 


Easy DIY: Denim Patch Skirt Refashion

The month of May was really busy and I felt like it just flew on by. This was one of the best Mays and I wish it would've lasted a little longer. Some of my highlights were...

1. Getting my driver's license.
2. Celebrated my 25th birthday with a rose gold & sparkly party.
3. Spent a great week in the Bay Area with my hubby.

Since I was having so much fun, I let my sewing machine take a little break. But now, we're back at it! I decided to ease back into sewing with an easy DIY. I love patches because of how easy it is to customize something to your own liking. Here is how easy it was to refashion this denim skirt. 

Oh and... yes, I cut my hair! I felt I needed a change and I just went for it. I haven't had short hair in years, but so far I am loving it. :)

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