6.23.2020

Thinking of Redefining Your Look? Avoid These Commonly Made Mistakes

One of the wonderful things about growing up is getting to define our sense of personal style as we mature. Whether it applies to our clothes, the way we wear our hair, our makeup or our footwear it’s a beautiful journey of self-discovery. Of course when we’re kids and teens we start out by wearing whatever our parents pick out for us, or try and ape the styles of our coolest friends. As we get a greater sense of who we are, however, we start to get a little more flamboyant. We feel more comfortable taking risks and expressing ourselves through our appearances. Whether we choose to embrace a modest style or not, we all get more comfortable with experimentation, finding out for ourselves what works and what doesn’t. 




However, while our tastes tend to change and evolve as we do (and as fashion dictates), there are times when we feel like a radical change. Sometimes we do this out of a need to redefine ourselves (such as the break up of a serious relationship, a change in job or career or entering a new social circle). Sometimes we do so out of a simple desire to mix things up a bit in terms of our personal aesthetic. Redefining your look can be incredibly liberating. In fact, while we are resistant to change in general, it can be good for us in a number of powerful ways. It’s no exaggeration to say that in some cases, changing your style can change your life. It can make you more comfortable in your own skin, help you to embrace your age or body shape, help you to shrug off old insecurities, and help you to feel a new kind of confidence.

However, whenever you invite any drastic change into your life there are potential caveats. Here are some commonly made mistakes that will keep you from doing anything that you may regret when redefining your look... 

Going too extreme


It’s completely understandable that you may want to make a significant change. But be wary of going too extreme in your look. Especially when it comes to things like your hair. While changing your hair can be fundamental in changing your appearance, there’s nothing worse than knowing in your heart fo hearts that you hate the look you see in the mirror. While any change may seem jarring at first, the last thing you want is a look that feels fundamentally wrong to you. It can take a very long time grow your new look out and try something that helps you to feel more like you. 

As hungry as you may be for change, you’re looking for a way to redefine yourself rather than try and make yourself into someone else. Talk to your stylist beforehand about ways in which you can still stay true to yourself while trying something new. 

Remember that there are lots of ways to change your appearance that can instantly be reversed such as changes in makeup looks, clip-in hair extensions or hair chalk. There’s no need to make permanent or long lasting changes while you’re still feeling vulnerable. 


Costly or high maintenance looks


When we’re deciding who we are in terms of our appearance, we tend to settle on looks that are flattering, yet easy to maintain. The temptation when choosing a new look is to put together something that makes a statement. And while that’s great, you should also think about how easy your new look is to fit into your lifestyle. Will you still be able to meet up with a friend at a moment’s notice? Or will you have to wear a hat or a hood unless you’ve spent the better part of an hour perfecting your hair? Will you still be able to be comfortable in your new look? Will you need to make an effort to adjust your look for different scenarios (e.g. school and work)? 

You should also be wary of any looks that require you to spend a fortune on a new wardrobe. Your new look should still allow you to lean on old favorites without looking dissonant. Furthermore, a whole new wardrobe isn’t great for the environment or your bank balance. Try to be more like Zero Waste Home author Bea Johnson who can get a staggering 50 outfits out of a 15 piece wardrobe. And, of course, remember that there’s no better way to make your clothes new and unique than getting your sewing machine out and getting creative!




Assuming that contacts are better than new glasses


If you need corrective lenses, your eyewear can be a huge part of changing your look. But don’t make the mistake of assuming that the only way to change your look is by getting contact lenses. Contact lenses are easy to damage and lose, and using them brings an increased risk of scratches, irritation and infection of the cornea. 

You may be better served by trying out new glasses from eyeglasses.com. The right frames can subtly enhance the shape of your face while drawing the eye to all the right places.


Leaning too heavily on makeup


Makeup can be awesome. It can enhance the gifts that nature gave you while also drawing focus away from the parts of your face that you’re less thrilled with. It’s also a fantastic outlet for self-expression. Being daring in the looks we create and wear can be extremely liberating and help us to look and feel different. 

But be wary of changes to your look that require you to wear heavier makeup. Over reliance in makeup over long periods of time can clog your pores and irritate your skin. Make sure you can still pull off your new look when you’re giving your skin the time to recover from the effects of wearing makeup. 

Bringing the wrong friends out shopping with you


Going shopping for new clothes with your friends can be enormous fun. Just make sure you bring the right friends with you. The friends who you know will be honest. Even if they have to be brutally honest. 

As tempting as it may be to bring the friend who’ll always tell you that you look gorgeous in everything, you’re actually better served by the friend who will be kind but honest and potentially save you from making a purchase that you later hate. 

Playing it too safe


Finally, while you can certainly go to bold in your new look, there’s also such a thing as playing it a little too safe, as well. You should aim to scare yourself just a little while remaining mostly excited for those around you to see your new look.

2 comments :

  1. Cant agree more. Going too extreme is worse than not using anything at all, IMO. Well said, Mary!

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